This is Part 2 of the article Growth Mindset. To read part 1, click here
So we discussed fixed vs growth mindset. I think we can all agree we know which one we want. But…the blocks….
Yes, we have blocks, but the hardest point is when you shrug off inertia. The first step has the most resistance to change. Once you get the feel good factor of a little bit of achievement, things will start to move by themselves. That’s why you never want to look at the whole damn marathon ahead of time. Once you’ve done 10 miles or so, you’ll be so elated you’ll get some miles for free. Sweet free miles.
Whatever your limiting belief might be – and there are many – here are some ways to start chipping away at that armour. It’s a process. Remember, the ultimate goal is to become more fulfilled as a person. The stakes literally couldn’t be higher.
Step 1: Brainstorming
Write down what actions are important to take to better yourself. You need at least 10 actions, right now, get a pen…
Make sure it’s you and not your family, friends or colleagues you are speaking for.
Step 2: Narrowing it down
Choose the top four or five and put them on a sheet of paper. Put a box for each of the next thirty days. Every time you do one of those things, or take a step towards one of those things, put a mark. This is deliberately loose. It’s about momentum, not specific goal achievement.
Step 3: Looking at the evidence
At the end of the month take a look at the paper. What are you not doing? Forgetting to meditate? Not working on your blog? (Those might be mine…) Can you list all the reasons why not? Do any of them look like self -limiting beliefs? For example, “I didn’t meditate because I’m not disciplined enough.”
Where to go from there?
Something is stopping you from doing one or some of the top 10 things you want to do with your life. This really needs some thought. Why would you block yourself from contentment?
The first step to getting over a limiting belief is to realise you have it and see it for what it is, a belief.
The next step is to prove yourself wrong (you can make this a wonderful habit). This is part of building momentum. Look at the things you did do on the list for example. I bet you feel better about them now! Maybe it’s not such an effort to do them each day anymore. Free miles!
This doesn’t happen overnight, so you need to choose little battles.
Here’s an example:
“I wanted to make some money on the side of my day job.”
Days on which I took steps towards this: 3/30
Possible fixed mindset conclusions: I am lazy. I’m not hungry enough for it. I’m too ignorant about the subject. No time.
So in other words, you think “3/30, pretty bad. Someone must be to blame. It must be me, or my circumstances or some combination.
Possible growth-mindset conclusions: “3/30, I must have some blocks. I’ll do something right now, then again tomorrow and then reevaluate”
A fixed mindset wallows in the past. It wants to define you as too lazy or not good enough.
A growth mindset wants tomorrow to learn from the mistakes of today. It doesn’t need to define you, because you can change in no time, so where’s the value in that?
Take away those negative mantras. Goals should always be about now or tomorrow, not last week.
One day in the bank = One victory.
Could you do it for 2 days in a row?
Keep proving yourself wrong and changing your mantras to be positive and future directed. See where you get. It won’t be perfect, but if you don’t believe it should be, who cares?
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